chore: Update datafusion, update `arrow`/`parquet`/`arrow-flight` to 9.0 (#3733)
* chore: Update datafusion
* chore: Update arrow
* fix: missing updates
* chore: Update cargo.lock
* fix: update for smaller parquet size
* fix: update test for smaller parquet files
* test: ensure parquet_file tests write multiple row groups
* fix: update callsite
* fix: Update for tests
* fix: harkari
* fix: use IoxObjectStore::existing
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